Thursday, March 11, 2010
Am I successful?
Firstly lets consider the question what is success.Mainly it is a feeling of accomplishment which we measure by payoffs like respect in the eyes of others,monetary benefits,power and self-satisfaction. However we cannot define or measure our success by comparing it with the journey and experiences of others.If we do then we are doomed to be miserable.We have to look at it by determining our own personal benchmarks and judging how far we have travelled in our own journey.Success evaluation is an internal and personal process which should take in psychological, emotional, intellectual, physical and monetary elements of the payoffs.Generally the society at large just observes the outer manifestations of the payoffs( like media visibility,financial capacity or king maker abilities) and ignores the rest of our lives biggest accomplishments. And if we also do that, then the most of our crucial achievements would amount to zero as there is no way one can monetize a happy family life,lifelong friendships,overcoming adversities by sheer courage,blemish free strong character and goodwill earned.We all have unique stories of success hidden in our seemingly ordinary lives.
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Everyone needs to arrive at their own definition of success. What is success for one, maynot be success for another. In any case, I believe, that success and failure are an event, not a person. They are transitory in nature. Being successful at something does not necessarily mean the person is a 'success' - likewise failing in something just means that, it does not mean the person is a failure. Stay-at-home moms often look for this external definition of success because their contribution is only known/seen by their immediate family (and sometimes not even that!). Everyone needs to arrive at their own definitions and not worry about the external definition.
ReplyDeleteI believe that the definition of success is the ability to live life the way you wish. This does not advocate a hedonistic way of living, rather we define what gives us pleasure, satisfaction and most importantly, peace of mind. I agree with Maullika that success is different for different people. What someone else may crave for may be less important to me and vice-versa. We need clarity in what we wish from life and work towards it. If one is able to accomplish some of these goals, one is bound to be happy. Yes, I think that success brings happiness. Hence, if we achieve milestones that make people sit up and notice us but does not make us happy, it cannot be termed as success.
ReplyDeleteeveryday is a holiday ..for all of us , who look after the house and have no kids. It all depends on how we perceive it. It is so much fun and relaxing..Right now , it is gr8 and just heavenly ,,after so many years of slogging...
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