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Monday, November 22, 2010

Why are we critical?

Sometime back I found myself fretting about something which someone else was choosing to do. I myself was surprised at my reaction and couldn't figure out why. After a lot of contemplation and soul searching the reason hit me with an impact of a speeding truck.We are almost never really bothered what people do if they are not within the ambit of our self definition. Close family and friends are people who we use to benchmark our positioning in life and we desire the comfort of sameness & familiarity from this group. Anyone who dares to do
things differently or hold contrasting opinion is immediately open to criticism. It is self-preservation mechanism
to guard and uphold the thinking "I am right". What makes us the custodians of deciding what is right and wrong?
This is a childish and immature way of living life.To really be mature and grownup means accepting that our reference group of self definition will have individuals who will choose to behave and do things differently and that diversity should be a source of rich experiences rather insecurities and criticism. Our self  has more depth and color the more we expose it to broader range of experiences.